We received a gift from a donor who checked "Mx." as the female's prefix. She is married to a "Mr." in our database. My question is how to address the joint salutation. Our policy is to list a married couple, who share the same last name, as "Mr. and Mrs. Martin", listing the man first in a male/female relationship. We have not encountered a "Mr." (man) and "Mx." (female) relationship until now and are reaching out to find out what your policies are for this circumstance.
Thanks so much everyone! Summer
University of Arkansas
Director of Records and Data Services
Administrative and Development Services
Fayetteville, AR 72701
You refer to the person who chose Mx. as female multiple times. I suspect if they wanted to be referred to as female they would have chosen one of the gendered options. So, be careful with that. When in doubt, I always go with full names: Mr. Jack Doe and Mx. Pat Doe. Or switch them.
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If the last names are the same I would follow the Mr. and Mx. [last name]. Otherwise I would opt for Mr. [last name] and Mx. [last name]. We don't have a policy on this (yet), but I wouldn't treat Mx. much differently than a Mr. or Ms./Mrs. since it's not like Dr. or The Honorable, etc.
I would also assume that the individual is indicating themselves as non-binary, rather than female, with the Mx. honorific. I would consider this to be especially important to know for gift officers, and donor relations/communications.
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Many of our membership programs are moving away from using prefixes at all, unless the donor pro-actively provides one, so we don't have many cases where this has come up. But I would agree with Dariel that either Mr. and Mx. [last name] or Mx. and Mr. [last name] would be fine. I'd also think that using both full names (e.g. Mr. [first name middle name last name] and Mx. [first name middle name last name], or in the other order) would also be fine.
If we knew that the relationship with one of the entities was primary, we'd likely put that name first. And, of course, if we knew the specific preference of the constituent, we'd certainly reflect that, but we often don't, and our membership programs have only limited bandwidth to reach out to constituents about their preferences.
My US$0.02 worth; the usual disclaimers apply.
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That's been the way it's been handled regardless of where I've worked over the years. You have a standard, and then make exceptions based on donor / constituent preference.
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